Proverbs 31 woman

We took a little break from our normal studies last night to look at the Prov. 31 woman.  I can't even begin to guess how many times I've read this chapter, but this is probably the most indepth study that I've ever made on it.  I really enjoyed the study and thought I'd share a few of the highlights with you.

I want to begin by sharing a passage from a commentary I read (Family Bible Notes):  "In the closing passage of the book of Proverbs, the pen of inspiration has given, for the instruction of all ages, the character of a "virtuous woman," such as every wise man will choose for his companion in life.  It consists not in the fascination of outward accomplishments, which are too often united with idleness, prodigality, and a selfish, contentious spirit; but rather in industry, good management, authority over her household, and the spirit of love and kindness.  Such a woman will confer honor upon her husband, and make him prosperous and happy, however she may be undervalued by those who are too ignorant to understand in what female worth consists."  (This was well received last night!)

In verse 15:   She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
We discussed the physical applications of this verse - making sure that we send our family out each day with a good breakfast under their belts.  Then Debbie made a spiritual application - that we should provide spiritual meat for our children.  This lead Sheila to: De 6:6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: 7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. 8 And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. 9 And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates.

Verse 17:  She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
This verse can be taken both literally and metaphorically.  We should work to keep our physical bodies healthy and fit enough to take care of all of our responsibilities.  We all agreed last night, tho, that the metaphor was probably the best application.  When men in ancient times had a difficult job to do, they gathered up the hem of their robe and tucked it into their "girdle" or belt.  This kept their clothing from hindering the job they had to do.  We should also set aside the things that hinder our work and work with vigor on the task at hand.  Ec 9:10 Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest.
 Heb 12:1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,
Verse 18:  She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
Not only does this teach us to be industrious, working into the night if need be, but it also infers that we should do quality work.  We should be known for "turning out a good product."  In the parable of the talents, we are instructed to use our talents and grow them.  Col 3:23 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;

Verse 19:  She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
I thought the commentaries on this verse were very informative.  The spindle and distaff are implements of spinning thread.  This was considered to be a very menial task, usually done by servants.  This verse indicates that a woman doesn't assign any job to others that she isn't willing to do herself.  No task or chore should be beneath us.  This reminds me of the passage in John 13, where Jesus washed the feet of His disciples.  We should be humble in all of our doings.

Verse 25:  Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
Although verse 22 indicates that we should take care with our appearance, to dress appropriately and not bring disgrace to our husband, this verse shows us that our primary focus should be on our character.  1Pe 3:3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
1Ti 2:9  In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 10 But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.

I will finish up this summary with verse 30, because it ties in so well with verse 25:  Pr 31:30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
I want to share another passage from one of the commentaries I read:  "A handsome shape and graceful behaviour are very taking; and so are a good complexion and lovely features: but, alas! as the greatest beauty soon fades and vanishes, so many ill qualities may lie concealed under goodly looks (which will utterly spoil all the happiness that a man promised himself in such a choice); and therefore a truly religious woman, who dares not any way offend the Lord, is that amiable person, and she alone, who will please a man always, and deserves perpetual praises."
This verse also came to my mind.  I know I've shared it before, but I just love the imagery that it suggests!  Pr 11:22  As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion.

I hope you have enjoyed this limited review of this ever-popular passage.  This accounting of the characteristics of a virtuous woman sets a VERY high bar for us to attempt to reach.  I know that I need a constant refresher course to keep my eyes focused on the goal!